Are you secretly in love with a gorgeous girl but don't know how to win her heart? Do you feel that she may be out of your league? Have you tried to do something for her but only received rejection?
Well, here's some secret insight for you into a girl's mind (from a girl herself :) I want to share this as I meet some amazing men who are great guys and have great potential as boyfriends but they somehow seem stuck when it comes to getting the girl of their dreams.
So how do you win that girl?
1. Be confident of yourself
Just like guys can automatically sense when a girl is too needy, girls can also automatically sense when a guy is unsure of himself. Confidence is an attractive quality for girls because it indicates that the man knows what he wants (ie. he knows that he really likes the girl), knows where he is going (and therefore, has a great future ahead of him) and is mature emotionally.
2. Get your act together. Get stable.
I have to be honest. If you don't have any financial stability, or career prospects, or drink and flirt around other girls, a girl will not have a sense of security when she's with you. One of the major things that girls want in a guy is security. In the past, most girls went for guys with muscles (an indication of strength and therefore, physical security). This is still partly true. However, many 20th century girls are smarter than that. They know that it's money that will feed the kids so it's important that you can provide sufficiently.
3. Enhance your emotional intelligence. Speak her love language.
If you haven't read the book about the 5 love languages by Gary Chapman, you should. Every girl has her own love language. Learning how to speak hers will greatly help her to feel loved by you. Briefly, they are: physical touch, words of encouragement, gifts, acts of service and quality time. Girls are no longer just looking for guys who can bring home the bacon, they are also looking for emotional support.
4. Be her friend.
Guys may not really want a girl to act like their best mate but girls really want their guy to be capable of being their best friend. One of the common distinctions between a guy and a girl is how a girl loves to talk much more than a guy. If you're a guy, learning to listen attentively to her (with appropriate supportive comments) will help her to feel that there is intimacy between the two of you. Thereby, greatly increasing her feelings toward you.
5. Be a gentleman.
It still holds true. If you're a gentleman, the girl will be impressed. Hold open doors, help her carry the heavy (and even the light stuff), do the dirty jobs and she'll really appreciate having you around. These areas are where men can do it so much better than a girl can.
6. Think of the small details.
Remember her birthday (if you tend to forget dates, put it in your PDA or mobile phone calendar!), remember her favourite flowers, remember her favourite foods, remember all the small details and she will know how much she means to you (and is therefore, more likely to love you back).
7. Change or improve yourself.
I once heard a quote, "There are 2 things that will change a man, the love of God and the love of a woman." Find out what kind of guy she is after and if there are areas of yourself where you can improve (but remaining true to yourself without sacrificing your integrity), then please do. If she sees your effort in doing so, she will appreciate it, even if you aren't necessarily successful immediately.
At the end of the day, when all is said and done, we tend to love the people who we feel loved by. That means that if she feels loved by you, she will more likely than not, love you back. Unfortunately, if you love her but she cannot feel your love, then it's time to change what you are doing. Or focus your efforts on another dream girl.
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